You pronounce it: [ih-fem-uh-nit; v. ih-fem-uh-neyt]
1. (of a man or boy) having traits, tastes, habits, etc., traditionally considered feminine, as softness or delicacy.
2. characterized by excessive softness, delicacy, self-indulgence, etc.:
1350-1400; Middle English < Latin effēminātus, equivalent to ef- ef- + fēmin (a) woman + -ātus -ate1
I read it while reading The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz.
Not a day passed when he did not fulminate against Batista (That ox! That peasant!) or Castro (That goat-f-ing communist!) or CIA chief Allen Dulles (That effeminate!), who had failed to stop Batista’s ill advised Mother’s Day Amnesty that freed Fidel and the other moncaistas to fight another day.